As I sit here watching my child draw with me, I have even more proof that she will mock me as she gets older.
It reminds me that when she does something that I don't like, I need to look at myself to see if she is simply copying my actions.
For example, I asked her to text me once she gets home for safety. Then I talked to her weekly about why she wasn't doing what I asked. I threatened to take the phone away and asked, "then what?" Well then she could never text me and I wouldn't know if she were safe. Next idea was to make her do more chores because she drained all of my energy and I couldn't do them. I figured that wouldn't work because it wasn't relevant.
After weeks of this conversation, I realized she's not being disrespectful. She is simply following my lead. I never text her that I'm leaving work. She has no understanding of why it matters, when she is safe at home. I was trying to use consequences without empathy and love. I was expecting her to do something that I was not doing myself.
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