Why "Pause", instead of "Time-Outs"?

"Time Outs" isolates your child, makes them feel alone and teaches them not to trust you.

Teach them to "Pause" instead. They can even take a pause with you. This will assure them that you are on their side and keep you connected during rough times.

We've seen in the past that children who are taught to hid or go away when things aren't perfect, as adults pretend things are goid, hid when things are bad and do not know how to problem solve or communicate with others. During this time, welcome emotions even if they are upset. Don't try to solve problems or search for someone to blame at this time. Pause with them. Show love and empathy always.

Promoting a bonding experience during hardships will increase during teenage and adult years. Nothing is perfect and there is no reason to distance yourself until it's better.